I’m baaaaaack! I haven’t blogged in two months (holy cow!), but I promise there’s a good reason. Well, I can at least excuse the last month. No idea what my deal was in November.
Brittany and I got married!
With about one month of planning and a ton of help from friends and family, we pulled off a pretty kick ass, last minute wedding. So yeah, I’ve been a little tied up. 😉
You’re probably wondering, was there a proposal? Were we “engaged” first? Why so quick? Great questions – and trust me, we’ve gotten them a lot. 🙂
There was no proposal. We mutually decided to get married. It’d been something we talked about for years but the idea of having an actual wedding caused us too much stress to go through with it. We couldn’t even fathom the tens of thousands of dollars most people spend, the year of planning and the 100+ people we’d invite. It was just too overwhelming, so we continued to push it aside.
But the past several months, we’ve gotten a lot more serious about starting a family. Since we’re two women, we want to be legally married so we both have equal rights as parents to our children. If we want to start making babies in 2018, we figured we better hurry up, bite the bullet and make it happen once and for all. We had zero qualms about being married, it was just the wedding that was freaking us out.
One random night, we said let’s be married by the end of 2017 so we can wake up in 2018 married. So, we decided on December 30th and just like that it was happening. To avoid the stress that typically accompanies wedding planning, we decided to keep it SUPER small (only immediate family and closest friends) and keep it off of social media. Once word gets out that you’re having a wedding, opinions start flying from every direction and neither of us were up for that. I just don’t have the energy to field the questions, suggestions and comments that surely are coming out of love. We wanted to do it all in a very non-traditional way (i.e. no bridal party, no giving away of the bride, no first dance, no bouquet toss, no bachelorette parties, wedding showers or engagement parties, etc.)
My entire family lives in Illinois so I didn’t expect any of them (except my mom) to make it out for our last minute wedding. Lucky for me, all three of my sisters made it, along with four of my nieces and of course, my mom. I invited my five closest girlfriends and their significant others and Brittany invited her closest family and friends – and that was it!
With the help of Brittany’s mom, dad, step-mom and best friend, Whitney, we planned what turned out to be the most perfect and fitting wedding for us. We decided on a little winery & restaurant right up here in Encinitas on the 101, about a block from Beacon’s Beach. When we moved to Encinitas a couple years ago, it was the start of a new chapter for us, the best chapter, so we figured this is exactly where we should say “I do.” It’s such a special, happy place for us and I’m so glad we did it up here.
We had our friend Eugene officiate for us because he is someone special to both of us. He also really loves our love and I just knew he would do it right. We wrote our own vows and read them nervously in front of our 30+ guests and then Eugene pronounced us married! From then on, we could relax and enjoy.
My father in law said an amazing speech right off the cuff and two of our friends gave beautiful, heartwarming toasts. We served wine, beer, cheese + meats, brussels sprouts, potatoes, salad, tri tip, seafood paella, donuts, and of course wedding cake that we picked out with my mother-in-law. The music was so perfect and fun and I could tell everyone was enjoying themselves. We invited some additional friends to come at the end of the night for some dancing, drinks and dessert and to cheers to our nuptials. The night went by so quickly, I wish I could replay it in slow-mo.
When we woke up on December 31st in our hotel room, Brittany immediately said, “I had SO much fun last night!” and of course I agreed. I’d danced my ass off and smiled until my cheeks hurt. About 10 seconds later I asked, “but aren’t you glad it’s over?” to which she replied “oh my god, yesssss.” As fun as it all was, we were most excited to just be married. Finally. After 4+ beautiful, wild, sometimes tumultuous, mostly amazing, happy years, it was time. We’ve made it through so much already and I know we will weather whatever future storms come our way.
Cheers to 2018, getting back to blogging and being Kate Page! Yep, I took Brittany’s last name. Trust me, if your last name was Buntenbach, you would too. 🙂
Photography: the incredibly talented Kirk & Alexis of Hale Production Studios
Bouquets & hair florals: Wild Island Florals
Table florals: Huntress
Venue: Solterra Winery & Kitchen
DJ: Justin Kanoya